Get The Ring: How to Find & Keep the Right One for Life.
Dov Heller - Part 10
of view or a moralistic point of view. Rather, I want to talk about it for very practical reasons.
When people are sexually active too quickly, it tends to be confusing. People have a much more difficult time focusing on important areas like character and life philosophy. When youå ¢een involved with someone sexually, it tends to make it more difficult to start thinking about these more important issues. It hinders your objectivity and you tend to romanticize the relationship. And this is something that you canà¡¦ford to do. And sometimes it even makes it difficult for people to face these issues because once theyå ade this level of commitment, theyå ¡fraid to bring up issues. After all, weå ¢een living together, weå ¢een sleeping together. How can I possibly think about questioning the personà¬©fe goals at this point, or questioning their character? I mean, you slept with me, now youå ±uestioning my character? It gets a little messy doesnà©´. So, for practical reasons, I suggest you hold off on sexual involvement. And hereà¡ principle that I suggest you consider. If indeed you do plan to be sexually involved with someone, I suggest that you do it only after youå ©ntellectually committed first. Be intellectually committed before you become emotionally committed or sexually committed. In other words, what do I mean by intellectually committed? I mean, make sure that youå ¤one your homework. Make sure that youå ²eally, really thought through the relationship and gone through all the points that Ià´¡lking about, at least, and you have reached the conclusion that I am solidly, intellectually secure that this is the right person; that this is the person I want to spend my life with. When youå ©ntellectually committed, then if you consider being sexually involved, perhaps the potential dangers are minimized at that point. Again, personally ità®¯t my value system. I really donà¢¥lieve that sexual involvement helps in making a decision, it does not. People often think that sexual compatibility is an important issue to find out about before youå arried. If one looks at the research done on divorce and the reasons for divorce, sexual compatibility is not one of the main reasons why people get divorced. Sexual incompatibility is often the symptom of more fundamental problems within the relationship.
Thatà¡® interesting statistic that most people are probably not aware of. All right. Weå ´ouched on five reasons why people make faulty decisions in choosing a marriage partner. Whatà®¥xt?
Reason Number Six ì¡£k of Emotional Connection
Right. Letà§¯ on to number six. The sixth reason why people marry the wrong person is that you donà¨¡ve a deep emotional connection with the person. Now you may be asking yourself è¯· could I expect to have a deep emotional connection with someone while Ià¤¡ting? The truth of the matter is that you
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