Get The Ring: How to Find & Keep the Right One for Life.
Mordechai Rottman - Part 13
could focus a bit on those differences and what it means for each partner on a practical basis.
Two suggestions that we mentioned, the list of virtues, and realizing that your spouse’s weakness are opportunities for your own growth, are things for men and for women
Men and Women Have Different NeedsNow I’d like to mention something that men should focus on because it’s something that men have a hard time doing even though women need it very much, and then I’d like to mention something that women should do because it’s something that women may have a hard time doing even though it’s something that men need very much.
Men: learn how to express your feelings. Learn how to say what you feel. Learn how to identify your feelings, give them a name and express them to your spouse. When you notice something in the house that you appreciate, say it. Show your appreciation. Express it verbally, and not just verbally, but by writing notes. Just little notes that say “I love you”, little notes that say “I’m thinking about you”, pick up something on the way home for no reason whatsoever and just give it to your wife and say “I was thinking about you”. But the most important thing is to express it. Let’s not have a relationship end up like one that I know about, where after being married for twelve years, suddenly the wife picked up and left. And the husband just couldn’t understand why. He loved her, he really did. The only problem was, he never told her that he loved her. And there she was waiting for him to say the words… of course, she’s not gong to ask for it because if she asks for it then how much can it be worth? And him, thinking that she was a man, perhaps, figured — Well, she knows how I feel, just like my guy friends know how I feel. Did you ever notice how long it takes for a woman to get off the phone? How many goodbyes have to be said? Did you ever notice how long it takes for a man to get off the phone. Men get off the phone like this — Okay, ‘Bye. Bump, click. — Women get off the phone — Okay, ’Bye… ’Bye…’Bye… Take care… Take care…. — Do you know why it takes so long for a woman to get off the phone? Because they’re in touch with the other person’s feelings more and they’re in touch with their own feelings and they know how to express them better. The man finishes the conversation and hangs up the phone. Men need to do a lot of work in getting in touch with their own feelings and expressing them to their wives. A man will come home from work and his wife will say, “So what happened today? Tell me about your day.” And he says, “Nothing.” “Well, what do you mean, nothing happened. You were gone for eight hours.” “Nothing. I went to work.” What does she want? She knows I go to work, she know what I do there. What do you mean? I’m an accountant. You know what accountants do. What is she looking for? She’s looking for you to express emotions about
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